Poisoning the well

L-i-a-r

I type the four letters slowly. You see, I’m not writing about a politician or a fraudulent businessman. I’m not writing about some scoundrel or gangster. It’s me.
I told a lie. I knew it as soon as I uttered the words, dripping like acid from my tongue, scalding a precious relationship. Scrambling, I found it Impossible to scoop it back in. And rather than rushing to correct the wrong, I covered the lie with another, creating a toxic waste zone.

History tells us that untruths have destroyed nations and companies. In our lives, they have undone relationships and caused friends to turn their back for good. One lie can destroy a lifetime of truth, ruining a stellar reputation. Although I may have deep well of integrity, a single drop of deception poisons the whole. All other facts are now questioned. Trust is broken.
Confronted and ashamed I didn’t know where to turn except to the life of black and white that I once cherished.  To those deceived, I can only offer the truth and a penitent heart. No money, no time, no words can bridge the gap.

While grace is a warming blanket that gives brokenness a chance, the consequences are often broad, maybe permanent.
And the title may never disappear. Liar.

Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.” (John 18:37)



How can the lie be repaired? What do you think?

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10 Responses to Poisoning the well

  1. Great post David! Truth is important and as I have told my girls, "Tell the truth and you don't have to wonder what you said." Lies always require cover-up and somehow remembering what it was you said the last time. Lies are like betrayal-they haunt you for a long time. Thanks for the good reminder to tell the truth.

  2. David,Your words… powerful, they are haunting.Yes, I believe that a lie can be repaired, albeit not without consequences that can be devastating. My marriage seven years ago existed on a lie..we both poisoned our marriage with each of our lies…7 years later we are still digging out but I see light and hope. David, there is always hope there is always grace…always. Don't give up on hope dear friend. Don't give up…I am continuing to pray..keep fighting David.

  3. Clint says:

    I do not disagree with anything you have written.That said, my belief is that there are lies…and there are lies. Where do we draw the line? It is not practical to be completely, 100% honest in all matters. Nor, do I think, is it desirable.Very interesting topic—lots to talk about.

  4. There are lies, but people who tell lies. But I am only a liar if I let my sin define me.I have done bad things in my life too. I have had moments of despair (and that is not too strong of a word) where I felt that I had sinned in such a way that I could never recover my identity apart from the sin.But God holds my identity apart from my sin. And slowly, he is teaching me to see myself as he sees me.It sounds preachy, but it's my experience.

  5. Sue Miley says:

    The funny thing for me, is the words that are not quite 100% of the whole truth and nothing but the truth are usually not words on topics that have great consequence anyway!Why do we guard our integrity on issues of importance, yet allow for a crack that can spread and shatter a life of integrity, on an issue that could not possibly matter?As I tell my child I have already left the office when I haven't shut down my computer, I wonder….is it worth losing his trust?Thank God for our God of grace and mercy and opportunities like this to learn and grow from each other!Thanks David.

  6. Grace is greater. And it is given by a miracle worker who said, "All things are possible with God."It takes time. But yes. Oh, yes!

  7. Brad says:

    Not to excuse the deed in least, let me at least offer that you're in "good" company here. Here's to better lips and even better hearts.Brad

  8. nance marie says:

    repair? possible, through the power of God. a repentant heart of the liar and forgiveness and grace through the one lied to.

  9. L.L. Barkat says:

    I think repair begins with us asking ourselves what triggers the lie. Is it fear? Pride? (which might also really be fear).And if it is fear, fear of what?And the 'what' is usually the place to begin. Though that doesn't necessarily simplify things at all. Fears run deep, don't they? They always seem to for me.

  10. Graceful says:

    I've been there, David. I've been the liar — and not just a white lie. A big one. The repair, the forgiveness, took a long time — both of myself, and my loved one of me. Ask for forgiveness and ask again. And then know that God loves you, no matter what.

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